Love & Memories

I have never felt that I am that great at giving advice. My life hasn't had a lot of interesting things happen to it for me to feel comfortable advising people what to do... especially when everyone is different and can take a situation differently than the next. Also, you can tell people what you think they should do, but in all actuality - it's up to them on what they do with it.

Recently I have been giving relationship advice to a friend. Now, I am no relationship guru. I am FAR from that. However, I feel that my plethora of bad experiences in relationships can be good for advising a guy on what NOT to do when courting (yes, I used the word) a lady. I've been in their shoes, where I liked the guy a lot and think it's going in a pretty good direction and then on day: BAM!. Whatever was going on is done with and I'm sitting there thinking, "what just happened?" At some point you just get over it and move on, quickly. No pain no gain!

Bringing up some of those past experiences has made me look back and realize how stupid and dumb I was when dealing with them. Heart break sucks, but I have learned that it's all about how you react to it that can make a different. About 5 years ago, I had a break-up that absolutely crushed me. It took me a very long time to get back on my feet and be 100% back in the saddle of dating. But then I've had a couple others since then that were tough to embrace, but I knew that I couldn't do what I did the last time. Smart move? Definitely. I allowed myself to grieve the loss of it, but then kept my chin up and focused on other things.

I used to wish for a D'Lorean so I could back in time and fix certain things that happened. Would that put me in a difference place than I am in today? Definitely. Would that have fixed what was going? Who knows. Maybe. Either way, I wouldn't be where I am today if those situations hadn't happened - so I am glad it went the way it did... no matter how hard it was to go through at that time.


I believe that everything happens for a reason. You live, you learn. Don't dwell on the past. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. Actions speak louder than words. No man is worth your tears but once you find the one who is he won't make you cry. Let love in.